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Nicole Schmitt
13 years ago

First time on this website...thought I had been to them all. 2 years and 2 months later John is finally convicted :) Thank God...the words we had all been waiting to hear for such a long time now. I see Jesse G and April wrote on here :MISS YOU GIRLS TOO!! So much has happened since July 2008. I am now living in Washington State and furthering my medical career. Holley, you were an inspiration to me, a best friend and an all around joy to hangout with. I still write on your facebook and think about you all the time. So many memories with you. Our trips to the beach...O'Charley's margaritas (maybe we'll have one or two...3,4,5) haha. Our trip to Raleigh for the long weekend to see Keith Urban and bawling our eyes out at the concert. Making friends with our hotel neighbors...All the fun times we had at work :) Drinking our Fuzes, eating gum like it was our job...MAN I MISS YOU. To anyone who never had the privledge to spend time with her or meet her...you missed out. She had such a free spirit, great mother, friend, daughter, sister, nurse etc. Truly amazing in every way & the world is a little less bright because of our loss. Keep flying with us Schmoozer. Love You. -Nicole

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Timothy J. Coblentz
14 years ago

Holley and Dustina are sisters. They both chose a life in service to their country. They both have beautiful children and were sucessfull at whatever they put their minds to do. However, Dustina and Holley never even had the chance to meet. They spoke on the phone about meeting but never followed through. They share the same birth mother. I won't go into that. Even though they weren't raised together, and didn't have the same parents taking care of them growing up: they believed in the same values and worked very hard to get to where they were. Dustina is my wife. I feel exceptionately lucky to have her as my wife. Looking at Holley's and Dustina's pictures side by side they are strikingly similar. I am sorry Jesse for your loss. Holley was a beautiful, vibrant, sucessfull, Mommy who had everything going for her. I am sitting in Kuwait waiting to come home from my fourth deployment right now. Dustina also has served a deployment in Iraq in 2007-2008. Holley I am sorry that I did not push harder for Dustina to come visit. You two would have certainly hit it off and become good friends. I wish that I could have helped somehow. My deepest sympathy, Your Brother-in-law, TIM

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NIckole Schulz
14 years ago

I am Steven Eye's Niece and i miss Holley very much. I may not have got to nkow here very well but in the time that i spent with her i found out that she was a great mother and would do anything for her kids. I miss Holley a lot and it hurts me to see the pain her family had to go through. I will keep you all in my mind, prayers, and hearts. Holley its Nickole. I miss you a lot and loved spending the night with you and my uncle. Miss You A Lot Nickole JoAnn Schulz

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Shara Givens
14 years ago

My twin sister Dara an I only got to know Holley a short time in our life we were only kids we lived in Louisiana on a small street where we played everyday we were at each other house everyday we didnt go a day with out seeing each other we only lived 1 house down from each other. Well its sad to say Holley and her family moved away to Iowa that killed me an my sister we lost our bestfriend♥ Well me an my sister started to look for her over the years well i finlly got lucky and found the right person I was so happy that i found her family once again . On 9-29-09 I called the number that i had goten it was her dad I was so happy to finly find the right person i had butterflys in my stomch i just knew that i finly found her. Well i talked to her dad today an got the most upseting news its not what i wanted to here after 18 years of being apart from her : ( Holley i am saden that i lost you once again but you will always be in our hearts♥ Dara an I sat down an watch old movies of us when we were kids we are glad we have thoes momorys of you ♥ Once again i am sad that i lost you again .. WE LOVE OUR CHILDHOOD FRIEND HOLLEY JAMES...RIP you beautiful ANGLE!!!

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Linda
14 years ago

Holley, It is truly unfortunate that even though I am your aunt , we never met. However, the tragedy of your passing has united family as nothing else ever has. People make a lot of mistakes as they try to find their way in life. If Christ can forgive me for my sins, then the rest of us can look past the sins of others and realize that people do things to us out of hurt, anger, and misunderstanding. I love your mother and I know I would have loved you too! Your aunt Kathy told me that you once said that you wish your family could be closer. In honor of your wish, I will truly try to uphold my end; to reach out and keep reaching. Peace be with you mighty warrior of God!

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lettherebepeace
15 years ago

To the family of Holley: You all have been in our prayers You will continue to be as I'm sure the wounds will take much time to heal. I have not met any of you but her Mother: Julie James. I have known her for over two years and she is a wonderful, sweet person. It saddens me so to read the bitter and hurtful things being said. From Son to Mother? I have a son and I don't know what I would do if he ever spoke of me in that manner. I don't know what has happened in your family in the past. I do know this has been a horrible tragedy and I'm sure Holley would love nothing more than to see her family come together and make peace with one another. We have all made mistakes in our lives. Isn't there a time to forgive? It would be so nice for Holley's family to keep her memory alive together. This doesn't mean that you have to share Thanksgiving Turkey or sing Christmas Carols together. Just make peace with one another. What could your Mother have done to make you hate her so? As your family has sadly learned, our time on earth is limited. We do not know when it will be out time to go;make sure you go with peace and love in your heart for one another. Call your Mother. Maybe you don't know the whole story. Maybe you were only told what someone wanted you to know. I don't know. Please honor Holley and her life by coming together. I will be praying for peace in your family. My heart is breaking for you; not only for the loss of Holley. But, for the loss of your love, respect and unity with one another. Holley look over your family~~bring them together in Heaven's name. Love, a prayerful friend

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Lana
15 years ago

I to was a victim of domestic abuse and almost killed in front of my daughter..People sometimes never understand until you walk a mile in those boots of ours. I pray for each and every person and someday wish to keep my battle up to show that strong violent history of spouse abuse in the military and how its no always easy to come forward. I hate to see that someone has left the earth in pain from that but know that your in a safe place and your memories will always follow all who know you and even some of us who never met you in person but in the heart know what it was like. I wish you had the chance to be a survivor like me but it was the hardest time of my life even having brain surgery from it and the pain I was in I almost sometimes wished it was over. I can tell you are missed and loved..and I may not be much but I'm a victim to and one who doesn't ever want to see that happen to others like what happened to us. I will always fight to make people know that its not a shame to be a victim but a struggle sometimes..may your presents be known to all the victims and help guide them to safety....God Bless...Lana

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April
15 years ago

I wasn't going to post anything, but seeing Jesse do so kind of changed my mind. Yeah. I'm the last one left on the floor. Go figure, right? We always talked about how we wanted to get started on our careers and push to do what we wanted to do. I was so amazed that you'd already jumped to take the GRE. You had so many ambitions. Well, it looks like things will really start changing now. Those of us who haven't already are making 1LT now. I keep thinking about how you'd be excited about this. You'd be promoted with us. With that happening, all of a sudden I'm being pushed to apply for courses and to go to C4. I signed up for it. Leilani already went. It even looks like I'll be deployed this fall. Cool, right? I remember saying I'd love to go on a deployment with you. It would've been fun. Things always managed to be fun and interesting when I worked with you. Even our rough days. I'm starting my packet for the ER course, too. I could just imagine you slapping my shoulder with excitement. Or, the usual roll of the eyes and the "thanks buddy" that followed any teasing. I'm sure you'd be doing enough teasing about me being left behind on MBU. You'd also let me vent, though, and I always appreciated that. I miss the hell out of you. The floor has never been the same. Oh, and Carroll is in Iraq now. Nicole is moving away. Keep an eye out for those two? I worry about them at times. I know, I probably don't even have to ask, but I was always the one that worried. Even if it was quietly.

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15 years ago

God bless

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Jesse Gossett
15 years ago

Hey Lady Just wanted to let you know I miss ya. I remember last time this year we were skipping out of hospital orientation to go to Applebees for our soup and salad lunches! Most of us have left the floor already. April is the only one that is left. Ava still asks about Miss Holley all the time. I hope the kids are doing great. I know your watching out for them. I'm praying for you and your family. I know this holiday season had been and will be very hard. Hopefully I can get back home to Iowa by summer. You know I'll come see you. Miss you girl. (Have a PT test here soon, you can drag me on the run-I could use the help). Jesse

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15 years ago

Christmas Tree in Honor of all Soldiers

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Changestart_at_home
15 years ago

Your Cabbage Patch Doll- isnt naked anymore- she has been enlisted to serve. I Love You, and miss you terribly. Always With You, MoM

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Alex Burford
15 years ago

When I heard about Holly, I asked, "Why is this happening again? Does someone hate Women that much?" I didn't know Holly, but I was Army from 1978 to 1984 and I still feel a sense of Family with the Troops. Holly's passing saddens me greatly, but I Hope and Believe that She is in a Better Place now and is probably helping Megan Touma and Maria Lauterbach to be Good Mother's to Their Children who passed on with them. God Blees Holly, Megan and Maria. America's Best!!!

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Caring Person
15 years ago

I think that it is a true shame that mother and son airing their dirty laundry on this site. Holley was a beautiful girl. She was still very yound and had a lot of growing still to do. She of course had made some unwise decisions in her life, but haven't we all? Of course she loved her children and to air the laundry about her children and their father is too much. Holley and Steve may be went their separate ways, but they would always be bonded by their children. Please stop plastering her private life out on the internet for everyone to read. Do you really think that this is what she would want? Holley portrayed herself as very happy and lovable, do you think that she would really want anyone with a computer to know the most personal parts of her life. Some day her children may google their mothers name and this is the type of thing they will read. How sad for them. STOP IT! Show love for your sister and your daughter. No one is allowed to judge anyone elses grieving process.

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MOM Julie James
15 years ago

Holley your birthday is on its way- December 12th- they've already played the "Grinch Who Stole Christmas"- a little early this year considering that's what was playing when you were born way back in '83. Kendal posed for this picture just for you- she is her mother made over and your legacy to life, strength and endurance. We love you Holley- smile upon us as we seek guidance from God to continue to deliver the message that your final cry was not in vain to End Domestic Violence and that we continue to support and Honor Soldiers and their families. Were decorating a special tree this year in your honor but the Grinch wont be visiting this Whoville- this year. Sending Silver & Gold Sparkles up to you in heaven- each glitters with love from your mom, Steve, Tre, & Kendal

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MOM Julie James
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MOM Julie James
15 years ago

My Dearest Holley, As the tears consume what's left of my heart, I 'm lifted only that I feel your presence in spirit and strong determination comforting my soul as best an angel from the heavens can. I'm saddened unimaginably with the grief of my loss, and that any "hope" of love, laughter, and future shall be for us in this world. Time does not heal all wounds, and those that we manage to live through bare scars of epic purportion.. I know you were crying out to me on that horrible night they murdered you- I left work early- sickend and tormented by nothing that could be explainable except for the inner cognition of mother's when they sense the cries of their child in pain- crying out for their mother to save them, and I'm sorry my baby, I couldnt stop the horror, the pain, or their cruelty .as they took the very life from your body. There are many things I can not change -from the past, nor ever in the future....but I promise you, Holley, I have always loved you and that will never change. Your father, himself, will someday have to face and come to terms with his own mis-steps about you and concerning you- the choices of your life as well as the manner and manipulation that he has laid you to rest. If it had not been for your strong spirit, and the unbreakable bond that God secures mother and child with at birth, your real passion and love for Steve, Tre, Kendal and me, would have gone unnoticed and unrecognized in the fairy tale ending that fast cars and cell phones were the only meaning and all consuming dreams you had for your time here on earth -according to life with father.. Those that truly knew you, and loved you, saw not only the flaws we all carry but the remarkable strength and kindness that maturity had begun to share with this world, I know you'll understand that I will not visit you by graveside, as your heart and soul is not there but I carry you in my heart and spirit and as you see me from above- I shall honor and recognize you in all ways that are true of Holley's Heart and Holley's Strength & Determination. Pray for us Holley- were in a period of painful change not only as a family but as a nation. May God have Mercy on All of Us. AMEN

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Beaux
15 years ago

This is holley's brother. The women (julie) who wrote that long letter on here lied. What she said was not true and it should not be on here. Holley did not like julie at all. Julie always treated her so badly. I love my sister very much and i dont want such disrespect from julie on holleys name. Julie is a con artist and holley wanted nothing to do with her or steve. Holley loved her new life that had her father jesse james and her brother me (jesse james) and her kids. holley wrote a letter to julie saying how badly she wanted julie to leave her alone. she never mailed it because holley is a mature women and nothing like julie. kandi james is holley's real mother. Kandi has treated holley with so much love and respect and holley loved kandi as her real mother. No one should ever listen to julie and her lies. My father loved holley with all is heart and still does and will forever. Never forget that. I love my sister with all my heart. I dont need to write a poem or story to tell the truth about holley and her family. everyone in their family has people that they dont like and julie is the one in our family. Please do not give credit to julie because julie was never in holleys life. Kandi and jesse were there for holley all the way. Thanks to all and we love you holley! this is our way of sticking up for holley since she is not able to do it herself.

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MOM Julie James
15 years ago

Dear Beaux, This is a site for each and every memory and expression for all people who loved Holley. You have not been assigned as the keeper of all hearts and souls. You may be my son, and yes, I raised both you and Holley without the assistance of Kandi- who has never changed your diaper or had to drag you down from a tree, or even pick you up in kindergarden when you were expelled. I understand your defensiveness however being a father, a marine, and a husband it is now your time to become a mature and respectful man whether you like or agree with what person has chosen to make an entry in honor of Holley. If you have a personal issue with me- then you should confront me personally or if you would like in the presence of your father and we will sort out truths and deception that you apparently have not been able to grasp at this time. I pray for you Beaux, that time will give you the maturity required to be a good and honorable man- not the childish boy that wrote about things he truly does not understand. about his mother and his father's prior relationship

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MOM Julie James
15 years ago

Dear Beaux, This is a site for each and every memory and expression for all people who loved Holley. You have not been assigned as the keeper of all hearts and souls. You may be my son, and yes, I raised both you and Holley without the assistance of Kandi- who has never changed your diaper or had to drag you down from a tree, or even pick you up in kindergarden when you were expelled. I understand your defensiveness however being a father, a marine, and a husband it is now your time to become a mature and respectful man whether you like or agree with what person has chosen to make an entry in honor of Holley. If you have a personal issue with me- then you should confront me personally or if you would like in the presence of your father and we will sort out truths and deception that you apparently have not been able to grasp at this time. I pray for you Beaux, that time will give you the maturity required to be a good and honorable man- not the childish boy that wrote about things he truly does not understand. about his mother and his father's prior relationship

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NIckole Schulz
14 years ago

This is my uncles ex-wife and i miss her very much. I may not have got to know Holley all that well but she is the mother to my cousins Trey and Kendal. I miss you alot and i know you are looking down on us. ~Nickole Schulz~

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Shannon
15 years ago

Holley was a wonderful person, she befriended everyone she met always laughing and smiling. I remember going out with her one night to a country bar, lol just for the fun of it. Holley was giggling about how the older women had their pants hiked up really high and how she hoped we didn't do that when we get old. LOL I miss her so much and Hollz I promise when I'm older I'll still wear hip huggers for ya! Miss you and your spirit. Love always, Shannon

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Lindsey
15 years ago

Holley was one of the most lively and uplifting people iIhave ever met. I first remember actually meeting her at her brothers wedding. The entire James family is full of angels and caring, kind hearted people. In this horrible time they are still trying to keep a positive outlook and they are maintaining the image of Holley we all know and love. The fact that she was the friendlest sweetest stranger you could meet for the first time as a friend. Her personality and personal strength will live on in the daily lives of her family and friends and in that of her two beautiful children. Holley your life was short., but its meaning was clear and powerful- live for each day, and make it worthwhile. You did this and i take it as my inspiration to do my best and to make the most. Thank you for all you have taught me. Love always

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Steve
15 years ago

Holley, I have saved a place in my heart for you and will always go there while I am out cruising on my bike. It was hard leaving you at your final home but I know I can come there to visit you when ever I need to be near you again. It is a beautiful spot...I know you would love it. Till we meet again, Steve

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allie
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allie
15 years ago

aunt holley its allie!! we love and miss u very much!!!! Remember when we were at the family reunion and me u and paw paw danced , and i had went back to abbyville with ya'll and we rode in uncle mike's airplain and went car shopping for aunt frankie!!! all i wanted to say was we love you and its hard to get threw the day knowing your not with us!!!!! i'm trying to stay strong for you but at time to time it get to the point where i just break down!!! well aunt holly try to keep in touch with me just like paw paw said call our cell phones and we will answer!!! i love you and goodnight!!!! love your niece, allie!!!

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Susan Cates
15 years ago

holley was one of my best friends...she was going to be in my wedding and she was there the day my daughter was born...i feel robbed of the time i didnt get to spend with her but she has made more of an impact on my life then most people ive known all along..it was very hard to say good bye to her today but i honestly hope it isnt goodye but more of a see you in the future...she was the sweetest person ever and i will think about her everyday..i love you so much holley...im sorry i didnt get to say it sooner...i promise to miss you everyday for the rest of my life...watch over me...i love you

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Steve Harvey
15 years ago

I had the honor of working in the office that commissioned (then) Holley James. Even though I didn't get to meet Holley personally I can say she left a profound and positive impression on the Soldiers who worked on her application. Her commitment to the service of this great nation will forever be a part of her legacy. We pray that the grace of God comfort all those who knew and loved Holley especially her precious child and her parents.

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Julia
15 years ago

Holley was not my friend, but I wish she had been. She was my nurse after I gave birth to my first baby. You could immediately sense that she was that special type of person, a beaming girl who never met a stranger, someone I felt instantly comfortable with. We swapped jokes and chit chatted about babies and breastfeeding. She talked about her kids and calmed my fears as a first time mother. Holley was my kind of girl...fun, outgoing, and light hearted...I didn't know her well, but I did know that much. She was my favorite nurse, and I'm happy to say I told her so. She gave me a hug and said thank you. I'm sure I wasn't the only patient who ever felt that way about her, sadly, just one of the last. She was a blessing and I will never forget her. Before I left the hospital, I took her picture with my baby. It should be noted that in my 3 day stay, she was the one person I wanted a picture of, not because the other staff wasn't great, they were, but Holley was special. (in the picture--Holley and my baby under the photo therapy lamp for jaundice, taken 3/22/08)

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