8 years ago today you left us... you have missed so much... we are all just living life here id like to tell you its been all good but I can't.. it has been a Rollercoaster... I miss you so much... I wish i could have an hour to just sit and share with you all that has happened since you left us.... but for now this is my only link to message you, I love you dear brother, and think of you every day.... Love Tinky

8 years ago now, like your aunt Jeanie said, it will never get easier but it will get softer, and right she is. I still think of you daily. Knowing our God is taking care of you now. I am at peace here in Woodland and after all these years I got out my quilting again. Life goes on, just different. The photo a blast from the past. Love you forever. Mom

Today is Sept. 20, 2015. I have ventured out on my own into a beautiful senior living complex, right behind your dentist office. Going on three months now. Your three kids Trevor, Maddie and Brady are beautiful children, now all in high school. Lee is getting some schooling in his facility and writes to grandpa often. This week has been filled with more than usual memories of you and your sister growing up, that's what happens when you go through storage and albums,etc. I am grateful that your dad and I have a working relationship now, and I consider us friends. Miracle for sure. You know I am 70 years old now, and there are many friends and family who will pass and join you up there in heaven. Give them all the ride of their life on your chopper. I have a new respect for all your tats now, just took me awhile. Christal wants to go see your resting place, so we will go soon. She has grown up a lot. I love you more than you will ever know.

Dearest son; it has been six years now that you have left us and joined the beloved angels. Your sister and I have been holding down the fort in Woodland. We got to see your treasured children Trevor and Brady this weekend. Trevor is now taller than his mom. Maddie was on a sleepover. Brady and Maddie are now wrestling and we will get to see them master that soon. Your dad is doing okay in Bandon, holding down the fort, keeping Bandon property in shape. I miss you every day. Haven't seen Lee lately, he is doing his time, but hope to see him by April, as he gets moved to Sacramento. Christal and Cameron talk of you often, in fondness. We have great grandkids now. Caelan is 1 1/2 now and Cadhla is 2 1/2. You would really love them. Know I love you so much. Mom

its my 25th birthday today and i am missing you uncle garry. i love you i wish you were here. your neice chris clarke i remeber you calling me chris alot. i loved it

It wasnt a memorie it was a plan of ours me and my uncle garry was suposed to go to oregon together and go on the long trip but it was to late he had already passed away after we made that plan. in sept of 2008 we was gonna go. i wished we had. but i miss him to much. he was my fav uncle.... in the whole world. christal clarke his neice.

ONE year ago I was led back to Woodland to be with Tina, Kurt, and Cameron, on what I believe is a Godly adventure. This year two great grand daughters have been born. Your big boy Lee is such a nice young man, you would be so proud to see how he has made positive changes in his life. Your three babies are so big now and doing great under the umbrella of their super mom Raquel. I will love you forever and miss you every day. Send love down to your pops today dear son. He misses you more than there are words to describe. He needs a miracle of healing from our God. I am thinking might like to take a ride on a Harley some time this year..and be not afraid of it either.

Today is FEB 10th 2012.. Today marks the day, my dear brother... it's now been 4 years since you left us to go on your journey.. You have not been around much, I wonder why? I thought you might stop in more at least to check in on Mom, she's been here in Woodland with me for 8 months now and thought I might have seen a few Garry signs around but haven't felt your spirit around for a long time.. I wonder why you don't come anymore? We are still here missing your laugh, your smile... your ladybugs... I love you Bro... Love Tinky

I can't stop nor take away all the hurt and distruction your death has caused our Mom and Dads marriage, I can only pray that some way.... somehow..... you can find a way to touch their hearts to bring them back together again, you would have never wanted this to happen, nor would you have ever wanted to be the reason... earn special favors or borrow a buddy's set of wings or whatever it takes, you need to... Do something about this!

16 APRIL - Happy 45th birthday son. We thought of you today, but that is nothing new; we thought about you yesterday and days before that too. We think of you in silence. We often speak your name. All we have are memories and a picture in a frame. Your memory is a keepsake, from which will never part. God has you in his keeping, we have you in our hearts, forever, ma and pa

Today I am sending you birthday hugs up to heaven.... Bro- you are never far from my thoughts, today.. everyday.... I love and miss you dearly.. Tinky

So, last night I wrote volumes here and as in the past didn't click the right button so you are the only one who got to see the words from my heart. We got to spend time with Trevor, Maddie and Brady in January. Trevor is doing quite well playing his saxaphone. Maddie took Tink up to her room, like before, and like before you sent the ladybug, which came down on your sister's hair to join us, and it flew from me to her and back again. Thanks for that memory. Dad has some physical problems, which as you might recall, really messes with him and slows him down big time. I try to stay busy with computer classes and volunteer work. You have more company this year up in your beloved resting place, our Angel, beloved pet for 12 years has joined you, as you continue to help her learn the trick of 'rolling over', which we know she just loved. Lucy and Eddie Frantz, and Jacque Vaughters and also Don and Gladys Powell have joined your angel friends also. We have connected with many from the church on the web site Facebook, and did learn that God chose to heal Carol Trevan's cancer, so she may continue to bless all those who know and love her. Her family is well and growing in leaps and bounds. Dan married and that was an event indeed. The veterans cemetery in Dixon, where we laid you to rest is so very beautiful now, with arches and fountains and wandering paths. Tink and I spent lots of time there in January when the Wreaths Across America were on the headstones. What a glorious site to behold. We took pictures around your "14" row. So today marks the second year without you here on earth but you are always on my mind. We love you unconditionally dear son. Mom

Thanksgiving ahead of us; I am thankful I got to love you as long as I did and can love you, unconditionally, like you love me unconditionally. I will get to love and hug on your babies in the next few weeks. Your love warms me often.

Bury a loved one So easly said You dont know how it feels Until your loved one is dead No words can define A heart so broken No peace of mind In condolence spoken Some say give it time Again your sun will shine Although comforted in sorrow The pain is here tomorrow Say goodbye.. just say a prayer and hope to heal from the pain Gives no relief just despair it just plays games with my brain I think I am going insane was it me? who to blame? I think I would rather just stay busy and just gather Thoughts in my head just tell myself he's not dead Just to think of him riding On his harley or hiding With the wind on his face When he would disapear without a trace and show up much later With that smile on his face Yes I think I will just ponder Where did he go today.. I wonder? This way my sun will again shine There is no need to give it time How am I today? I am fine.. can't talk though, I am busy We can chat another time No need to call me tomorrow I'll be fine without sorrow I have a garden I need to tend I have no need for a friend I am fine here all alone I have no need for the phone Just keeping too busy to think Then there's no need for a shrink Today I think I will plant more flowers oh ..how the minutes turn into hours as for today the sun will shine So don't worry I'll be fine....

Garry, Mom was here she visited me and worked her magic made me feel better and we had a visit from your best friend. It was so nice.. I wish we could get together more often it is nice to see others who share in the loss of you and share the love we have for you.. I know you would be happy about what I sent your best friend home with.. me and Mom were wanting to keep it but it just seemed like you were letting me know where you think it belonged.. your Harley vest is now where you would want it... I know it will be cherished! At times on more than a few occasions you are on my mind and something weird happens.. I am busy doing housework or picking up papers and its plain as day, I see you walk in my house say hello Tinky! as if you were just stopping in for a visit.. I hear your deep laugh and see you bending down to pet my dog and you change the tone in your voice to match the excitement of my dog..acting like a dork.. Then you come give me a hug but not just a hug, its a bear hug and pick me up grunting as I yell STOP and beg for you to put me down.. you put me down and pinch my arms and tell me how you wish yours were as big as mine.. as I point out to you look... they aren't so big anymore... I realize it is just a replay of an old memory.. but it's all I have of you now... It's times like that help me get through this... days when I can pretend your not gone.. I miss you big brother.. I really do...

A year has past, where has it gone? I have been lost in grief for far too long.. Inside my head I replay the call.. It's been a nightmare, It's when I lost it all... It was my dad, he was on the line he said to me, Tina.. It's your brother.. in the background I heard the screams of my mother.. I dropped to the ground with the phone in my hand.. It must have been an hour before I could stand.. Mind set a blur, with my emotions all mixed.. My family chain was now broken and felt, it will never again be fixed.. Since the day my brother died, my mind has been scattered.. searching within, what's life all about? asking myself..what really mattered? Sorting through the guilt and feeling the shame, I never said I'm sorry, no.. that day never came.. Now, I will hold on to hope that somehow it's true that with heaven comes forgiveness and hope that, somehow he knew... Today It's a year since he left us on earth. filled with so much sadness and regret ..what's it all worth? It is now time to let it go.. It's time to say goodbye to all the shame.. It is time to begin my life here with a new year.. without pain.. I will save the I'm sorry's for him another day.. now I will send my love to him up to heaven today.. I know I will see him there, somehow.. someway.. Our family chain will link back together again in heaven someday.. Today we will all light a candle and just like your soul, it will shine! In remembrance of you, sweet brother of mine... Love you forever, Tinky

Missing you...

In just a few days it will be Feb 10th 2009 Garry.. A Year has past since you left, not one day goes by without you in my thoughts, although some days are harder than others.. I still feel the pain, it hasn't gone away.. I have come to the realization that the sadness I continue I have because of your death is with me to stay.. It's just being left here without my brother... and only having the memory of you, It just doesn't seem like its enough.. but I know holding on to them is all I have left of you... I try to focus on happy times and think of the all the good memories, but as hard as I try.. Nothing changes the fact that your gone.. I sometimes catch myself thinking.. If I just try to imagine your just away on a long trip, and your having a good time, and your just to busy to check in back home.. Then reality hits, It's been a whole year and It has not all been a bad dream.... Your death has brought so much unbearable pain to our family and still today it continues to overwhelm us. I know the same goes for a select few... your closest family, friends, special relationships..all the lives that your love still touches today... Your spirit is still felt here..so strong, and I believe that you are aware of our love and that you know what's in our hearts.. So I am asking you for a little help bro... Ma and Pa need your help.. So It's time to pull out all the heavenly influences that you are able to.. please help them find some peace and more healing... Help them with the pain they can't bare, whisper a favor in God's direction and see if He can manage some healing down here, I can't seem to get him to hear my request.. I am not asking for myself, I know you don't want them to hurt .. so do whatever you can to send some healing in Bandon's direction.. I will keep trying to help here at my end... but I really think this is a job, that can only be done from above... I love and miss you Garry... love Tinky

Garry, Your first Christmas in heaven , our first Christmas without you it wasn't the same.. I went to the Veteran's Laying Wreath Ceremony at your resting place and was given your wreath to lay by your headstone, It was an honor doing that for you, brother... For Christmas I went with Mom and Dad to see all of your kids... I gave them all a hug for you... and Maddy showed Mom the ladybugs... I see you have been working from above to make our Christmas special.. I felt you close... Thank you! we all love and miss you Tinky

Today I am thankfull for having the time with you when you were still here..you are missed so much by all of the people that love you... Love your sis, Tinky

I fear forgetting you It somehow seems strange the tears don't fall as much but the pain inside is the same I fear forgetting you like somehow I won't recall what your voice sounded like or remember your face at all I fear that someday I'll wake up and your laughter I won't remember, I fear I might forget the way your eyes danced when you would talk.. I fear I will forget the sound of your endless chatter I fear that my memories of you will somehow someday shatter Listening to you ramble on I'd say.. you are such a doof! it's the little things like that, you did .. that would send me through the roof! I hold so many memories close, I want to forever keep them near, they are what I miss about you most I miss you brother dear... . will I wake up one day and have forgotten all the good? will I forget the way we talked? will I remember all the times we rocked? Listening to Van Halen and Def leopard in your car? watching you sing the songs acting like a rock star will I wake up one day not remembering you at all? Will I forget the way I laughed at you, sitting back shaking my head will I forget? will I remember ? dear brother ,everything you've said?

If I had been the one to go before you dear brother what words would you bring? would you have been standing above me saying the same thing? listening to mom and dad torn apart inside, don't blame yourself and how.. she forgave you, she loved you.. So please forgive yourself now.... But that's not reality and its not a bad dream I am hurting so badly, I just want to scream... trying to hold on to anything that brings you closer to me anything you touched no matter what that might be... I am left here behind.. to make up a place and a time, when I walked up to you sweet brother of mine... where I tell you I love you with tears on my cheek where you reach out and hug me and forgiveness we'll speak in my head there would of been peace in our mind your sweet spirit comes out to give me and peace I would find The bad times we shared would be in the past... never mentioned again promises made that would last.. You would know where my heart was back when things got bad You would know I wanted you better, and you wouldn't be mad You would know how I thankfull I am for bringing me to your home to give me a chance to get my kids back with me, all of this would be known I had no place else at that time to go, you gave us a home to rebuild what was broken so many words left unsaid, so many words left unspoken.. You would know that my heart loves you deeply You would know what you meant to me completely I have lost you forever and now fear the worst It was not you God should have taken... it should have been me he took first..

Things I remember.. I will always remember his kind spirit, his tears, his sensitivity sometimes hidden under his pain of feeling wronged, he was strong in his efforts to fight for what was his, and to keep what he worked so hard for.. He learned to be humble.. He tried so hard to forgive, when asked... He did sometimes have clouded judgment and wasn't always able to see his wrong doing, because of his feelings of being hurt and betrayed by some of the people in his life that he loved, that hurt him... including myself, I truly believe that he did things not in haste but only in de fence... he loved very deep, passionately and under all his tattoo's and tough-bad boy appearance.... He was a teddy bear, that is unless he was wronged and then he turned into a grizzly.. Garry was a good man,son,husband, father, brother, and best friend.. Garry always tried to help when he knew someone needed it.. The people around him that knew and loved him knew this about him.. It was very important to him to be heard and understood and most of all it was important for him to be loved.... He was never afraid to show his feelings to me... I know first hand his tears were real that day when the motorcycle club delivered my family presents for Christmas to Garry's home that year we lived with him. The year we would of had nothing. His tears were real when he was thankful, happy, sad, hurt, and real when he felt love... Garry's passions in life... Biggest passions were his children, his dreams, his harley's and of course the love of his life and working towards getting back together with her... Garry had many obstacles that he overcame in his life and few more that he was working through... I believe he had true happiness just around the corner here on earth and he would have made all of his dreams come true, had he been given the chance but God had other plans for him.. I have been a good sister to him, most of his life... I have hurt him, been hurt by him, I have forgiven him, and most of all I have loved him... I have many good memories of him, some stick out more than others and as the months pass since his death and more and more keep flowing in.. Sometimes I wish I could stop them because I miss him so much, but if it wasn't for the memories I would have nothing left of him... I remember many times he would come home, when I lived with him a few years ago... He would come to my room and see me sitting in bed and say to me.. Hi Tinky! and he would come lay down by me and talk... I never felt closer to him that I did that year when I moved in to get my life back together.. He had just purchased him a small piece of property on a hillside in smartsville and had plans of building a home there...He wanted me to rent his house out and raise my kids in Sutter.. he would get so excited about the future... Garry loved my kids, he was a great uncle... always planning, working through things to make it all happen...I have to say a lot of the talking was done by him... Garry loved to talk.... Fun memory- Standing out in his back yard in Sutter with him with the electric razor, he needed me to reach his back.. he wanted to shave the hair so his tattoo's would show up nice... I couldn't stop laughing, it was a fun moment... I will hold the good memory's close to my heart. I wish I would have had the chance to tell him how much I loved him before he died. But at least I have this memorial page to write to him and about him and at least I can share with all the other people in his life that loved him... I am truly thankful for that...

Today was your Funeral The sound of taps over your ashes with the flag folded neatly as your memory flashes inside my head like a home movie playing hearing your voice inside my head saying.. Don't be sad Tink it's not as bad as you'd think I can see what your feeling but soon you'll have healing There is no need for tears.. I will be forever with you.. for the rest of your years looking down at your grave ..as I cry but feeling your presents up in the sky still asking myself just how... could he die? Mom and Dad still holding up strong I can see them growing weaker I know it won't be long until they realize the reality that your really gone... Your old friends I could hear their cries All gathered together to say their goodbye's Your three little ones didn't come here today they will say their goodbyes here together, on another day by sending balloons up to you floating up to the sky with little notes inside to Daddy asking you why? why did you die daddy? how could this be? I know this is hard for your little three... how will they ever understand? one day your here and the next day your gone.. and your not coming back.. this is so wrong... By Christina Hagle

In Loving Memory Garry Lee Stephens No longer in plain sight Yet I will see you tonight ...In my dreams Tears stream down my face No one will ever replace Sunshine comes through Birds chirping fills the air Yet, my heart feels heavy...I feel blue But I cannot despair No, no, it can't be true You're not coming back...it isn't fair I scream, I shout this must be a nightmare I just want out The twinkle in your eye The smile upon your face I must stop asking why And hold that vision dear..... It's not good-bye forever But rather, I will see you later!

In Memory of Garry Lee Stephens A powerful eagle soars through the sky it disappears ever so high You are that beautiful eagle in the air flying freely...no more cares a free spirit...no more chains nothing holding you back - nothing would dare you've broken free amidst the rains Forever will you remain in my heart no, I was not ready for us to part not a day goes by that I don't miss your laugh, your smile, your soft, gentle kiss yet all the while those precious moments I will always treasure for you, my love....no more pressure You are free to fly...this I pray so my love, spread your wings with the angels may you sing to our Father forevermore until we meet again someday where all things begin anew Always & Forever....I Love You

Thank you to all of you caring people who left your thoughts on the Daily Democrat pages.. I copied to share with everyone.. June 18, 2008 Garry, This last Sunday was fathers day and a tough one for all.. Your phone call to dad and gift in the mail that you always made sure to send like clock work, made it yet another painful reminder that your not here.. I gave Dad a gift this year... and I made him tear up.. It was just a little something, that said.. When I have problems that I can't solve and I don't know how to fix... I just ask Dad... That is so true... isn't it? he has been the shoulder for both of us to lean on for so many years.. It seems natural to go to him when we couldn't solve a problem... and he would always know what to say and do to help us... I know you sent your love to him this fathers day... as well as I know all of your kids sent up to you... Dad took me with him to see your little one's It was the first time I had seen them since you left us.. and one last stop to your property before Mom and Dad head back home.. They were here for Cameron's Graduation You would have been very proud of him, he walked down the high school track just like you and I did years ago... what a happy yet painful few weeks it has been.. just when I thought things were feeling tolerable and feeling strong enough to move on and think only good thoughts and memories.. and here comes the sad and painful thoughts flooding in again... what an emotional roller coaster it is... yes.. life does continue, but the life we have now is missing a big part without you in it. I knew it was going to be hard to see the kids, but it was something I needed to do... I think the hardest part was to see them and know how much they love you and miss you and your not going to be able to give them your bear hugs and kisses anymore. I know you never wanted to leave them dear brother... but I am sure you are looking over them and you won't miss a thing... Brady is a joy and has so much of your personality and Trevor is the spitting image of you.. He has your eyes.. although is somewhat on the quiet side and that is nothing like you! and your sweet little Maddy... Oh Garry, you were so right when you said she was Tina Jr. She has my strong will and loves attention... I am so happy you have left so much of you with us in your kids... I find some comfort in writing to you.. I am thankful for being able to do that here... It makes it possible for me to put in words how much you are missed and to send you my thoughts and my love. It does help me get through the hard days... It has been 4 months and still waiting for roller coaster to stop, so if you have any strings that you could pull up there, tug on them will ya? If your able... see if you can get God to give Mom and Dad some rapid healing and much needed comfort, the loss of you... has taken such a toll on them, as well... and I know a little help from above would be much appreciated... I love you Bro.. Your Sis, T Tina Hagle (Woodland, CA) Contact me Show picture -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- May 30, 2008 Dear Bonnie,Harry and Family, We are so very sorry to hear about the loss of your son Garry. We have you in our prayers and know that there are not any words that can ease this terrible pain and loss you are feeling. May our Heavenly Father with each passing day give each of you the strength to take each moment to be thankful for the time and love you each shared with Garry. Thank you for letting us know of the loss of your precious loved one. Our Prayers and Love, Jackie and Larry Butts Bolivar, Tennessee Jackie Butts (Bolivar, TN) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- May 27, 2008 This Memorial day takes on a different meaning for our family.. The first Memorial Day where it is you we are flying a flag in remembrance of. Mom and Dad's Veteran's flag project keeping them busy today, and yes they are flying a flag this year, with your name on a ribbon. I know you are looking down on us and you know how much we miss you. I took a ride and went to your graveside and left flowers again.. I don't know why, because I know you were not very fond of flowers and always thought they were a waist of money. Yet I continue to leave them.. I took a beautiful picture of all the flags, during my visit today... I will post it in the photo album. I do find a little peace in the midst of the sadness when I go there to talk to you... Yet I wonder sometimes why you can't just find a way to talk back.. I am not used to you not talking, you never were able to stop when you were here, and now just to hear one word It would be forever treasured. but I still do have many memories, and they.. I will keep and treasure them forever. Today instead of remembering you with overwhelming grief, I will remember the good things, the happy times.. I looked out in the field as I was sitting by your graveside and I smiled, a childhood memory of ours.. Hay Stacks, you know the ones? The big ones..by our first country house in Woodland when we were little.. The big stacks of hay we used to play on, the ones you hid my baby doll in... You know....the one I never did find! I miss you every day big brother... More more thing... thank you again for the Ladybug! I love you, Tina Hagle (Woodland, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- April 19, 2008 Garry It is still hard for even me to realize that you are gone. Don and I were just getting to know you and we surely looked forward to your visits to your mom and dads. You made all of us laugh with your stories. You were a great father to your kids and we could tell that they really loved the time they spent with you. I am thankful though for the chance to get to know you and your family and the laughter we shared when with you. We love you. karen bibens (bandon, OR) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- April 16, 2008 Today is your birthday, but I can't sing you happy birthday in my off key tone today.. The only thing that today brings me...Tears and sadness missing your laughter and your funny sense of humor. This has been the hardest few months trying to stay positive and needing to keep reminding myself.. that this is not all just a bad dream.. I thank you for all the good memories you have given me, I will cherish them forever dear brother.. I love you! Tina Hagle (Woodland, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- April 14, 2008 On Wednesday this week, April 16, will be your 43rd birthday and I miss you more and more each day; I doubt what they say is true, that it will get better in time but I sure hope so. One thing I can say for sure is.....no more spring fever for you my son, your Aprils have been so very hard for you all your life; this year, you will certainly have it so perfect up in heaven. Mom and dad are okay, one day and one moment at a time. I have waited and waited to sign this guest book, wondering just what will I say? I will say happy birthday our first born son, we miss you and will love you forever and will see you some time, right where you are. One more thing, Lee is doing so wonderful; your sister and Kurt have taken him under the umbrella of their loving caring family; he has two jobs and going to school and will get his diploma and learn to weld, like you started to teach him. Neeko has helped him spiritually and they all go to church too. Hope you enjoyed the balloon messages your babies sent up; they miss their daddy too. Love from your dad's ladybug.....Mom Bonnie Stephens (Mom) (Bandon, OR) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 16, 2008 Harry, Bonnie, Tina and family - We were so sorry to hear about your loss. I know these times are rough and just wanted to let you know we are thinking of you and keeping you in our prayers. Mark & Dolores Brooks (Woodland, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 11, 2008 I wanted to share a cute story that my brother Garry wrote. He had it framed and I found it at his home in Smartsville yesterday, while I was packing up the last of his things. Yesterday was hard, the final trip to his property, and the 10th... one month he has been gone. It all still seems like a bad dream! I was glad I found this, it made the days end a bit better. MY HAT One early morning oh about five years ago, my father and I were sitting on the bank of Sacramento river, holding our fishing poles in our hand. I say holding our poles instead of fishing because, as usual we weren't catching a thing. We hadn't got a bite in the last six times out. I almost forgot what we were out there for. Getting up at 4:00 am and heading out to sit out on some cold, wet and soggy bank for 3 hours in total silence isn't my idea of exactly the most thrilling time of my life. Well, anyway, we started B.S ing, since we both realized it wasn't very futile to go on any more and my dad apologized for the great fishing and said, Here son have my hat. I was shocked, it was my fathers prize hat, he treasured it. I told him thanx and proceeded to put it on my head. It felt nice and comfortable. It wasn't the most beautiful hat, all white except for this patch that said, " Peterbuilt on it, but I loved it. Every year I would go on vacation with my parents, While with them I would see some unique hat, something that no one else would get, and buy it. I treasure my hat collection, but of all the hats, I treasure that old " Peterbuilt" hat the most. This written by Garry 9/1/1982 ~~ Tina Hagle (Wooldand, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 11, 2008 Harry and Bonnie We are so sorry for you lost. I know no word will help at this time, but remember the good times. Our thoughts and prayer are with you both. Tony and Lorraine Cottor (Port Orford, OR) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 10, 2008 Dear Tina, Harry and Bonnie, There are never the right words to express one's sympathy at the loss of a son and a brother, but we are so sorry and sad to learn of Garry's untimely death. I know Eleanor, Jan's mother and Bonnie's aunt, would also express her deepest sympathies at this time. Eleanor always spoke of all of you and, through her, we feel close to you, Tina, and to Garry. You are in our thoughts and prayers at this time. Love, Your cousin, Jan and Terry Jan and Terry McClary (Huntington Beach, CA) Page: (1) · 2 · 3 · 4 · 5 Entries are free and are posted after being reviewed for appropriate content. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- This Guest Book is maintained online until March 18, 2009 by: Garry's sister Tina -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Send to a Friend Receive E-mail Updates Printer-Friendly Format Questions about the Guest Book? Contact us. Guest Book information and guidelines Today's Daily Democrat notices © Copyright 1999-2008 Legacy.com All Rights Reserved Guest Book for Garry Lee Stephens Page 2 of 5 March 10, 2008 My love for you cannot be understood i'll always think about you and you will always be in my heart, God Bless You Dad. Gary (Lee) Stephens Jr. (Marysville, CA) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 10, 2008 Dear Bonnie and Harry, I only remember meeting Gary one time, But I Know How Much He was loved by you and his family. My Love and Prayers are with you. Gerrie Fuller (Burns) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 8, 2008 I only met Garry a few times but I have known Bonnie a long, long time. So, I know how much Garry was loved and how much he will be missed by his family. I know that our children are always in our thoughts from the day they are created until we are gone, and after. Take care Bonnie and Harry -- my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God Bless -- Nancy and Harvey Brown Nancy Brown (Knights Landing, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 7, 2008 Garry, If I could continue where you left off... I would do it for you.... I would finish your dream home, I would pay off what little left you owe on the property.. I would have your kids grow up there in the country town, just as you dreamed... If there was a way.. I would...... My heart aches as we let everything go.... your dreams, your plans... you..... Will this pain ever get better? People say it does... over time..... I have my doubts... it only seems to break my heart more and more as time passes. I have been spending a lot of time with Lee and your best friend Neeko lately, it seems to make it a little easier to be and talk with them.. Lee reminds me so much of you as a teen, when you were not just my brother but my best friend.. I have so many regrets and so many things left unsaid. even though I said them to you when I said goodbye to you before the funeral, there is nothing I regret more than not saying them to you when you were still here with us.. Mom and Dad are holding up ok... Mom, trying her hardest to stay strong and help Dad take care of things.. you would be so proud of them...you know Dad, hard as a rock and taking care of business.. I know you see everything he is doing for your kids, he knows how much you love them... I have never seen the loving side of Dad as much as I have seen during this hard time, I am beginning to see where you got your sweet spirit from, and we thought all this time it was just passed on through mom...I know you see how much he loves you now.. You have made it possible to help him show it now... you know.. He tell me he loves me all the time now...I even heard him say I love you! to his sister the other day.. aunt Kathy chased him down the driveway at your memorial, trying to get her turn... you are making miracles happen big brother... I know you heard every word that everyone said that stood up and spoke that day, at your memorial.. Richard, Neeko, AnnaMae, Adam...me.... You have made it possible to bring everyone together and helped other family members to and forgive and forget and come together again...... So many people love you...... I wonder.. when you were still alive if you ever thought how many people's life would be affected once you were gone... if you didn't know... you do know now...... I know in my heart dear brother you know how much I love you, and how sorry I am.... as I promised I will be here for your children.. to help guide them in hard times, and they will know what a loving wonderful father you were and will know how much you love them... I love you.... Tina Hagle (Woodland, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 6, 2008 Dear Bonnie & Harry, I know the pain of such a loss is over powering now but remembering the good times is what keeps us going. You know your sorrow is shared and you are loved. Joyce Allen Joyce Allen (Canyon Lake, TX) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 5, 2008 Bonnie & Harry I'am so sorry to of taken so long to say how sorry Larry and I was to read about your son.Our prayers are with you. Larry & Juanice Sabin (Bandon, OR) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 4, 2008 Tina and Family So sorry to hear of your loss... I remember the time when Gary took us out for our birthdays that one year we all had fun and he was our bodyguard. Time does ease the pain and take comfort in knowing the pain will go away but the good memories are always around to put a smile on your face. You know I am just a call away if you need to talk and you taught me good skills when you were there for the loss of my mother, it came natural to you as you always know just what to say. Laurie Rutherford (Woodland, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 3, 2008 Bonnie (& family): I last communicated with you as a result of the USS Oklahoma City web site. I served on the ship at the same time as your brother and was saddened to hear of his loss though it was years is the past. Now this. My wife Marilee as well as I feel deeply for your loss. We have had the loss of my wifes brother this year and still feel its sting. The loss of a child is well beyond that and we are deeply touched for your loss. Phil & Marilee Muir. Mesa, Arizona. Phil Muir (Mesa, AZ) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 2, 2008 I just have to say, I cant stop thinking about the time we all went to the lake and stopped at McDonalds prior. Gary stuck a big spider in my shoe and freaked me out. That was a funny story... In memory of Gary. :} -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 2, 2008 Uncle Harry and Aunt Bonnie, I can not imagine the pain you must be experiencing with the loss of Garry. I have so many wonderful memories of us as children. I hope the memories you have of Garry will somehow be a source of comfort and healing for you. I am truly sorry. Much love to you all, Shawna Renalds (Bridgewater, VA) Contact me Page: 1 · (2) · 3 · 4 · 5 Entries are free and are posted after being reviewed for appropriate content. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- This Guest Book is maintained online until March 18, 2009 by: Garry's sister Tina -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Send to a Friend Receive E-mail Updates Printer-Friendly Format Questions about the Guest Book? Contact us. Guest Book information and guidelines Today's Daily Democrat notices © Copyright 1999-2008 Legacy.com All Rights Reserved Guest Book for Garry Lee Stephens Page 3 of 5 March 2, 2008 Harry & Bonnie: Mary and I will be praying for you, so sad to hear the news, Christ will answer. George & Mary Prehn Great Falls Montana George Prehn (Great Falls, MT) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 1, 2008 Bonnie and Harry: What fond memories we have of both of you and your family! I especially think of you with the ornament you gave us in Woodland, which started my collection, and the toothpick holder that you had inscribed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. Gerry was a special "kid" to us. I do wish we could have managed to see you or get to the service. I hope we can visit one day soon. Trust in the Lord for comfort. Know that we love you and care deeply. You are special friends and I appreciate so much your calling us. Keep in touch. Love ya ... Bob & Carol Bob & Carol Trevan (Roseville, CA) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 1, 2008 Bonnie, Harry and Family, Our love and deepest sympathy is with each of you. Keep him close to your hearts and always remember the good times. Love to you. Ron and Judy Knox Ron & Judy Knox (Bandon, OR) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- March 1, 2008 So sorry to here about the loss of your son Garry. Our condolences to you and your family. Merlin Roby (VA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Dearest Harry & Bonnie, I was shocked to learn of the passing of your son and my heart goes out to you. Words cannot ease the pain for you, but my thoughts and prayers are with you. Deepest sympathy to you and your family. Sharon Hawkins (Victoria, Australia) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Bonnie, Harry & Family, I am so very saddened to hear the news that you have lost a loved one. Although I didn't personally know Garry, I knew of him through all that you have both shared with me. As painful as this time is for all of your, God has a way of comforting us and helping us to heal the pain and grab onto all the fond memories. My deepest sympathies go to all of you now. I hope that you know that I will keep you in my heart and prayers. And please know that anytime you need a friend to talk to, that I am here for you. My love to you all, Diane Gorbet Diane Gorbet (Eugene, OR) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 There is nothing one can say to ease the pain. There is only the knowledge that some day you will meet again. My prayers are with you for your loss. Elaine Almquist (BANDON, OR) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Dear Family, My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. John Wegienka (Midvale, UT) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Dear Bonnie and Harry, Our sincere sympathy for the loss of your son Gary. I hope it's comforting to know he's in good hands while we are left behind to grieve. Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Bill & Robyn Perry Bill Perry (Sunriver, OR) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 So sorry to learn of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Paula Colgrove Brooks (Bandon, OR) Page: 1 · 2 · (3) · 4 · 5 Entries are free and are posted after being reviewed for appropriate content. Guest Book for Garry Lee Stephens Page 4 of 5 February 29, 2008 We know how painful this is for the whole family, and you are in our thoughts and prayers. Jane & Ray Osborne (Knights Landing, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Dear Family, We are so sorry to hear of your loss. We ourselves are all too familiar with this loss and find it hard just to write. We know there are no comforting words and memories are almost too painful still yet. Just know we are so sorry for your loss and may God Bless you and bring you some comfort. His picture is so beautiful. In our hearts and prayers, God Bless, Laura and Hugo and the Padilla Family (missing Kristofer Padilla so very much) Laura Padilla (Reno, NV) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Dear Harry and Bonnie. I was so sorry to learn that your son had died. I know how you must be suffering. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Mary Schamehorn (Bandon) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Bonnie, I am deeply sorry to hear of the news. I will mention it to mom & dad. God Bles you and the rest of the family. It is never easy but God will heal in time. Thank you for thinking of me and fowarding the message. Love you & take care April Gordon (Woodland, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 I have had many fond memories of you over the years and I am so sorry that I did not get to see you more often. You will be missed. Kelly Stephens (San Francisco, CA) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Harry and Bonnie, I did not know your son but my heart goes out to you both. I cannot imagine what it must be like to lose a child. Most of us never have to face that experience. Airlee Owens (Bandon, OR) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Dear Harry and Bonnie, we were so grieved to hear about your son. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Jay and Peggy Peggy Gardner (Wichita, KS) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 I am so sorry for your loss and our hearts are with you in this time of sorrow. Harold Lorenzo (Gresham, OR) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 You were the love of my life, my best friend to the end and I will miss you for the rest of my days. Thank you for giving me such beautiful children. Every time I look at our Trevor... I will see you .. he is you in every way. My heart is with your parents now and always. I will always do right by the kids.. please don't ever worry. Take care of us from up there honey. All my love.... Your Amazon Princess. Raquel Stephens (Yuba City, CA) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 29, 2008 Thank you for all the Happy Moments..I love & miss you dear brother.... Tina Hagle (Woodland, CA) Contact me Show picture Guest Book for Garry Lee Stephens Page 5 of 5 February 20, 2008 The loss of someone so close is difficult to bear. We share your grief. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Anna (Diego) Perez & Jose Diego (Woodland, CA) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 19, 2008 Garry: We were shocked to hear of your unexpected passing. From the first day we met, you were truly "unforgettable" and always quick to whip out photographs of the kids. We want to thank you for making us laugh on those days when things were so hectic around here. You always left us smiling and/or shaking our heads in disbelief (which encouraged you to continue with your antics). We will miss not having you drop in or call. We hope these few words bring comfort to your loved ones. Cook & Gushi (Marysville, CA) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 18, 2008 My heart goes out to you during this time and in the days ahead. May your fondess memories bring an ease and help you thru. Karla Ball -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 18, 2008 My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort. LaNell Ball (Woodland, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 18, 2008 You are a Beloved Friend and will be missed. I know you looking down upon us. Melissa and Steve Anderson (Marysville, CA) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 17, 2008 My heart will never be the same.. If you can wrap your wings around Mom and Dad right now... dear brother, please do so.... Your tender spirit lives on, you are loved so much. Love your sister ~ Tink Tina Hagle (Woodland, CA) Contact me -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- February 15, 2008 Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you. Pam Avey (Yuba City, CA) Page: 1 · 2 · 3 · 4 · (5) .

I Was Living with Garry when i was hangin the best time in high school thats when i loved high school i had alot of friends he teased me about a boy name adamn i think his name was he bought me flowers he came to the house and gary Laughed i loved Living there when i was Sleepin cameron and his friend put a tampon on my head Garrys ex girlfrined Amy was Really cool i Miss Garry RIP....Uncle gary Oh and one more thing Garry was always gettin mad becuase i always hide in his closet ......We All miss you Garr