Connor O'Gorman
Date of birth: 27-01-1979
Date of death: 05-04-2009

This is a tribute to our friend and brother, Connor - a celebration of his life and a way for friends and family to reflect ...

This is a tribute to our friend and brother, Connor - a celebration of his life and a way for friends and family to reflect and share memories of his amazing life, thoughts and prayers. We are all so fortunate to have Connor in our lives.

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  • 2 years, 4 months
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    Dear Connor,
    It is hard for us to believe that it has been three years.  Everyday we still miss you so much that it hurts. Several times yesterday, we asked ourselves what we were doing at that minute three years ago. The first call, the airplane back to Atlanta, Kerry on the first flight to ATL and Lila picking her up thinking you had a small accident and Mikey waking up to 30+ missed calls trying anything to get up to NYC. We remember the uncontollable tears, the intense anger and our complete disbelief. Each one of us plays the what ifs over and over in our head. Why couldn't I have been with you that last night, Mom wishes she would have called. We just wish we could have done something to help. We, including you, all thought you that you were invincible.  Why couldn't we have protected you as you had always protected us? Why couldn't we have done something- you, of all people, didn't deserve this.
    We remember your ability to never judge, to always light up a room, your insane intelligence that always had the answer- the right thing to say, you always had perspective, you never put yourself first- you were one person that everyone always wanted there, you were up for anything anytime, you had the biggest heart. You loved life- you gave everything your everything ..... From baseball, to your family and friends, to tennis and squash, to Morgan Stanley. You didn't even do it on purpose- you knew nothing less than to be the best son, brother, friend and colleague. "Can't do" never existed to you. 
    While alive, this was so obvious and we knew you were one of a kind and amazing. Since April 5, 2009- I have realized that so many others knew it too. The stories we have heard and read are truly amazing.... One of the proudest things about each of us always is our big brother and oldest son.  We are honored that you are OUR brother and son. In the past 3 years, friends have shared stories we never knew and if possible, we are even more amazed by you and the impact you had on so many from such a young age. These stories truly show that you are an angel, taken way too soon. 
    We still think- if only you were here now, would you still be living your fun carefree adventurous but extremely hard working life in NYC? You would be the best husband and father- where would you be? All I know is that  like following you to NY, I wouldn't have been far behind because life was and still is unimaginable without you.
    We think about those first days -and each day moving forward-and how we get through them. Family and friends and been beyond saviors. But we live for you--- we try to be more kind, more accepting, more giving and have that "can do" attitude. You had it naturally and I have to believe that somehow you are trying to help us embrace the attributes you demonstrated everyday and continue to touch all those that know you and of you. 
    Ive heard the pain never lessens and I can't imagine it will because plain and simple, life is better with you in it. We'll never miss you less, only love and honor you more and continue  to try to be more like you ...... To make you proud .... like you did for 30 years on earth and continue to do.
    Sometimes I think you would hate our continuous posts- you would hate the attention but you are all we think about and this is one way we have to continue to share you.
    Connor- what we would give. We miss you more than I knew possible but we were lucky because we had you. we love and miss you horribly..... And we truly think of you every minute. 
    I love you more than words,
    Katie

    "you're just putting off the pain
    Nothings ever going to be the same
    Let it hurt let it

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  • 2 years, 6 months
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    I was Connor’s classmate and teammate throughout high school in Singapore. I recently got back in touch with our baseball coach and just tonight found out about this tragedy. Though we were not close, Connor still left a lasting impact on me. More than fifteen years have passed since I last saw or spoke with Connor, but every single time I pick up a glove I think of him. Even today, before I found out, I was playing catch with my nephew and found myself working on my mitt, trying to form it to the ideal infielder’s glove, which by definition was Connor’s glove. He was constantly working on that glove to make sure it was perfect. That’s what was amazing to me about Connor, his work ethic and quest for perfection. He was the best player out there because he worked 50 times as hard as anyone else did. While I was always told that practice makes perfect, Connor personified that expression in everything that he did and proved the point to everyone surrounding him.

    Connor – Even though you gave me fits trying to match up to you, the experience of playing and competing with you was a wonderful gift I will never forget. You taught me a valuable lesson about hard work and sacrifice that has served me well, one that as a coach I am now trying to instill in the kids that play for me. Thank you.

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    2 years, 6 months
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    Miss you Connor. Miss you at work. Miss you at tennis. Miss you on the weekends. Happy birthday for last month. We would have gone out I hope.

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  • 2 years, 7 months
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    Connor,
    Happy 33rd Birthday. Our sadness is as raw as it was almost 3 years ago. We miss you everyday...... many times everyday. When I am in Atlanta, I sometimes close my eyes and imagine you sitting in your same chair. When I am in NY, I still get the urge to dial your number that I know my heart. You are still the first person I think to call. I remember so clearly planning your 30th birthday. Every "fun" thing we do.... I truly always think how it would be so much better with you. I get the same lump in my throat when I remind myself that you are not here.
    Your laugh..... your voice.... we would do anything to hear it one more time.
    Connor, we miss you so much. Love you always. Happy Birthday.

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  • 2 years, 11 months
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    We only miss you more each day. Thinking about you and wishing you were here. I love you so much Connor.

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  • 3 years, 2 months
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    It is with a heavy heart that I write this. Yesterday June 28, 2011, I found out about this tragedy. Most of you who read this will not know me. I knew Connor while he lived in Bangkok, Thailand. I was one of the coaches/umpires in the Bangkok Baseball Association where he and my son Joe played baseball together. They went to the International School of Bangkok and were truly good friends. I know they lost touch through the years, but Connor was always on my son’s mind. When we got together and talked about our time in Bangkok, Connor was always the first topic that came up. This wonderful young man made such a lasting impression on my son that when it came time to name his son, Connor was the first though in his mind. Although it is a little late I wish to add my deepest condolences to the Connor family.

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  • 3 years, 4 months
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    It’s been two years and one day ago that our lives changed forever…

    It’s been two years and one day that we’ve been able to hold it together --- all for the purpose of making you proud…

    Every day that passes is hard, but knowing that you are looking down on us makes it easier to get through…you will always be an inspiration and role model to anyone who ever knew you…

    I think about you all the time, and I never want to wake up when we meet in my dreams…last night we were body surfing at the beach; you kept telling Katie (who was afraid that she would lose her bikini bottoms) and Mikey (who was convinced that there were sharks in the water) to quit being pansies and ride a wave in…as I sit here writing this, I remember how you interacted with each of us: each relationship you had was special, unique, different, than the others, but one quality, one motto, that you instilled in each of us: “never give up.”

    I often think about how any of us have gotten through these past two years without you, and then it dawns on me – you never gave up on us…

    With every sunrise to sunset, I feel you looking out for me, and watching over me as I go about each day. I feel protected, safe – carefree – almost to the point that I feel you physically standing next to me, holding my hand (like you did when I was little) even though you aren’t. It’s hard to describe, but I KNOW that you are here. {Sometimes I make a joke in my head, and I hear you laughing, whether it’s with me or at me is irrelevant.}

    I know that it’s not just me that you are looking after either. You are watching over each of us: Mom, Dad, Mikey and Katie, and maybe even Deion. I don’t know how you’ve been able to keep each of us sane over the last two years, but thank you nonetheless.

    Mikey is coming home from Taiwan this summer. We are all really excited for his return because we will actually get to hang out again. Mom and Dad are still themselves, more or less. They miss you more than anyone else, of course, but they haven’t given up because they know that you wouldn’t want them to. They amaze me everyday with their strength. Katie is getting married in October, and when I met her fiancé for the very first time, he gave off a vibe that reminded me of you. He makes Katie smile and puts her in her place; something no one else could ever do but you. I think you would really like him, not because he’s marrying your sister, but because he’s an all-around good guy, and I like to believe that you had something to do with them meeting…I know how close you and Katie are, and I know how much you love her. As for me, I’m working towards getting my degree in August of this year. I’ve been studying and working really hard to finish – I’m not as ambitious as you were, but I’m trying to be! I have to be tuff, just like you…

    Connor, you would be so proud of us. Each of us are living our lives, becoming closer to one another with every passing day, interacting as a family and becoming the best people we can be because of you. Your lessons of strength, loyalty, generosity, and drive to succeed have been important to us as we get through each day without you. All of your friends, co-workers, team members, family, remember you and your vibrant character. You are our inspiration to keep going, our motivation to do only our best, and our reason to never be afraid of anything. If any of us begin to doubt our own potential, we hear you in our hearts and heads, telling us to keep our heads up and to never have regrets…

    We remember, very intimately, the way you shrugged your shoulders, the slight tilt of your head to the left, your unforgettable laugh, with your palms directed towards the sky as you simultaneously say:

    “Don’t be a pansy!”

    We miss you. We Love you. We are thinking about you always.

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  • 3 years, 7 months
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    Dear Connor,
    Its still surreal to be missing you - I can still see your smile so clearly and hear you laugh that laugh. I've been thinking about you so much lately as I'm planning the memorial service for our 10th Princeton reunion. I wish so much that you could be there with us to celebrate all our good times together. You are always with me and I always miss you.

    Happy Birthday, Buddy.
    Love you,
    Skye

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  • 3 years, 7 months
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    Thinking of you always Con. We miss and love you so much.

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  • 3 years, 8 months
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    we love you and are thinking of you always. This time of year is tough since we have so many wonderful memories - its not worth celebrating without you. We miss you more everyday and wish you were here. Thank you for being the greatest person we will ever know. Merry Christmas Connor. Love you.

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