Memories of Paul Maloney

Hey Paul,

You came to my house often
I gave you a drink and a meal
I somewhat listened to you
I did not really laugh at your jokes,
I certainly did not get your humor and your intelligence,
and most of all I did not get you pain
How sad I am today
Please forgive me

To all the family and friends, my deepest sympathies.
I worked with Paul for a few years and I will always remember his laughter and sense of humour. Once and awhile he would come up to me at my workstation and say: " Gisele, let's go for a cigarette but I don't have any, I'm quitting". I'd laugh with him and say ok Paul let's go I'm buying.
Thank you for the good laughs.

We had the great pleasure of knowing Paul all of his life and I am so glad that we did I remember how excited my brother Bill and I were when we heard the Maloney’s actually had a boy this time! “The Maloney girls are awesome … but now we aren’t outnumbered any longer” we thought J Some of my best memories in life include going to church with all of you on Christmas Eve and then heading back to your house for several hours of laughter and good times. We all had so much fun and I know Paul did too. There is no question about that. Thank you for those memories.



We have had many good times together and that is what I will remember. Fortunately, my family made it back to Ottawa, from Vancouver, for a couple weeks last summer. We not only had a chance to stay at your cottage for a week while we were there but we also had a chance to spend some quality time with Paul as well. He was happy and we spoke about all sorts of interesting subjects. I was so impressed with how enthusiastic he was about so many topics he felt passionate about. I really enjoy those conversations. Paul and I were talking one night and I invited him to come up to our cottage on the weekend as my parents had organized a reunion of sorts with a number of my old friends and, being an old friend, I asked him if he would like to join us. Paul said, that would be great, I’d love to but under one condition. I said sure, what is it and Paul replied, well my dad is on his way back from Gaspe this weekend and I would like to bring him also. This answer was, of course, please do that would be great …. We all had a wonderful time together, on Lake Bataille, as we have so many times before. I have had many fond memories of that day and the years we had with Paul. It’s these memories that give me strength and will always make me smile.

We had unfortunately only met briefly on two occassions, so I would just like to wish for strength through these difficult times for his family and friends, Sinclair

Paul, Bill, and I have been seeking Clifford for many years, since Paul was a little boy. We had lots of fun in the quest.

Paul, I think you finally found Clifford. We think of you, we remember you - all the good times. And, we love you.

I have been asking God and Paul to let me know that he is well. I have been listening and reading. I have reeceived some amazing responses. I want to share one here:

"What happens after death is so unspeakably glorious that our imaginations and our feelings do not suffice to form even an approximate conception of it."

Carl Jung

Thank you Doris and Bill, thank you Bev, Karen, Susie and best friends Kevin and Brian for giving me the honor of saying a few words about Paul on your behalf

At first, I was reluctant to accept simply because given how much love we all have for Paul and the fact that this would represent the most important public speech I would ever make

I was sitting down in the sun trying to figure out what to say and how to say it. Where to begin. What naturally came to mind was to simply share how I felt about who is for me my little brother Paul

Paul was a BEAUTIFUL MAN, a BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING…

We live our lives crossing path with different types of people…some selfish, some generous…some giving…some taking…

Paul was one in millions

Paul poured love and happiness all around us

Paul genuinely cared for others he was attentive

Paul was everybody’s best friend

Paul was sincere and not selfish

Paul had unconditional love for the people he loved…his love was so intense

Paul was sensitive…probably too much….when it was time to meet girls, as I was trying to coach him through the dating process, Paul could not understand how he would have to sometimes appear independent or semi interested rather than showing his true feelings…Paul could not play any such games…

Paul always remained true to himself

Paul was a beautiful man….he was one in millions

Let me tell you a few words about Paul…

Let me start with a few words that will remind you of Paul… a few words some of us will remember him with…

Fist, his nick name was Pooly Woog…his best friend Kevin dating back to the age of 6 was the other Woog…together, they formed Pooly Woog Woog

In the morning making his way into room, Paul would sing….

Hey..Hey…Hey, Beautiful Day!!!……if our daughter Mia, 2 years old, was here, after the ceremony, you could go to her and if you said Hey..Hey…Hey, Mia with give you a smile and answer beautiful day….thanks to Paul who taught Miss Mia he called her how important that sentence was very early on…)

Paul would often say…

Cheers, or

Cheers mate

Very…very…good

Where’s Clifford?

To offer a toast…Paul would say….Cheers Hey!

His signature would often read…lots of love Paul

Looking at a few characteristics for Paul…

Paul liked to talk, …..and talk……...and talk……..and talk

Paul would talk and talk and say, Eric, hey sorry I talk so much…I would say Paul, I am sorry I talk so little…please continue…

The tricky part in the middle of a long and deep conversation was to find a way to negotiate a washroom break. If you were lucky enough, Paul would not follow you to the washroom to continue his argument!!!

Paul was a smart and educated individual…one could literally sit down and have dinner with him 200 nights in a row and he could still find a new topic to talk about each dinner….

Paul could talk and entertain the Governor General of Canada or a taxi driver. Paul would threat both of them the same way and have a great chat with both

Paul was quite the joker and had a strong sense of humor…he always had the best one liner joke…..just recently at our daughter’s baptism…Susie had placed stickers to guide the nannies where which food would go in which bowl…Paul decided to add a challenge to the operation when no one was looking…and switched the stickers around…when we arrived from church, cashews were in the salad bowl and the salad in a bowl for treats….

Paul and Einstein shared at least on thing on common…their hairstyle! In the morning when he woke up, Paul with his hair all puffed up reminded me of Einstein…I always laughed seeing him in the morning with a smirk on his face, his hair all over the place…and sometimes hanged over on top of that

Paul was known as the crazy uncle…he would go to great length to make Declan and Liam laugh. When he was not there, the boys, Liam or Declan would say, where is crazy uncle Paul?

I also remember Paul bumping his head hard on the able trying to make Mia laugh…Mia laughing and looking at Paul thinking…what his uncle Paul doing? When Oliver was born…Oliver would show his fists like this…Paul would joke around saying….my name is Oliver…do you want it from the left or the right?

He was so considerate and caring…he would always try to buy the perfect gift for Liam his god son, be there and take time off work to be there for Mia and us when she arrived from China….or be there for mom and dad for important events…Paul was always there at important moments, for all of us

With his Irish and Scottish blood, Paul loved to have a great time and have a few glasses of wine… in fact Paul could drink with the best of them and be the last one standing!!!

Paul had a unique walk…he walked fast and leaning forward….I always laughed looking at him walk and wondered where did he learn to walk like that?

Paul was a walking encyclopedia…you could find out about almost anything…you simply had to ask Paul…..why are gas prices so high…where is the economy going…what is the history of this country Paul, etc….of course, you would ask questions like that when you had lots of time on your hands

Paul skied like a bird flies…fast and elegantly down mountains…he had a natural running style….and despite the fact that he had just started, Paul had an interest and a talent for painting…

He loved nature…loved Canada, loved the snow…loved the cottage. He could drive to the cottage without looking at the road. PRETTY SCARY WHEN YOU WERE traveling with him at 100 Ks in a dirt road and he paid more attention to talking and looking at you than the road itself

He made all of us appreciate nature…One time, Paul took Bev for a midnight boat ride. 2 days ago, Bev talked about how the moon was so beautiful and shining over the lake, and how magical the moment Paul had shared with her was

Paul was opinionated and argumentative…Paul was very detailed…Karen shared with me that when they started their company, called Co-VARIATES, one of their first mandate was to bring to 1 page a 10 pager document…It took Karen just under 3 hours to argue and settle the title with Paul!

Paul was a very efficient golfer…no concentration needed…Paul would put the ball down on the grass, no tees, and within a split second the ball would fly in the fairway or the woods. If it was too much in the woods, with twenty four balls on hand, Paul would take another split second to hit a second one and off we went

Paul was adventurous…Paul could take you to the top of a ski hill with his 4 by 4 and off you went down the ski hill inside A JEEP

Paul was a family guy…he would massage Doris’ shoulder and say love you mom…or hog Bill and say love you dad…

Paul often spoke to me about Kevin and Brian with whom he cherished a special relationship….I could tell you some of fun and not so fun things Kevin and Paul did and I could tell you lots about Brian who I had not met until yesterday. Paul loved you Kevin and Brian. He also spoke about Peter and other friends he had.

Paul was also very proud of his brothers in law. How composed and strong David was to handle Bev and how solid a rock Mark was for Karen. He was happy for Bev and Karen.

Paul also cherished the relationships that the family enjoyed with other families including the Barkers and all other families, uncles, haunts and cousins


A SPECIAL WORD FOR DORIS AND BILL

Selfishly speaking, please do not age worrying about Paul and what you could have done more for him. You gave Paul everything a child could ever want and ask for in this journey of life. You have children, grandchildren and friends that love you and we all want you around for the next 100 years! Well, may be not that long, OK let’s agree on 40 more years!

I invite all friends and family members to pay a special attention to Bill and Doris…let’s celebrate Paul through memories but also make sure Doris and Bill continue to remain young and enjoy life…let’s keep an eye out for them

LASTLY

ON BEHALF OF HALL OF US….

Paul, we just want to say….

A) You were a beautiful human being

B) We were and remain so proud of you Paul

C) We are so thankful that we could have shared part of our lives with you

D) You greatly impacted all of our lives and will for ever

E) Thank you for everything Paul…

F) We will miss you

G) We will honor you with the great memories we keep of you

H) We love you so much and always will


Cheers Paul

STAND BY ME SONG

When the night has come
And the land is dark
And the moon is the only light we see
No I won't be afraid
No I won't be afraid
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

And darling, darling stand by me
Oh, now, now, stand by me
Stand by me, stand by me

If the sky that we look upon
Should tumble and fall
And the mountain should crumble to the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry
No I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

And darling, darling stand by me
Oh, stand by me
Stand by me, stand by me, stand by me

Whenever you're in trouble won't you stand by me
Oh, now, now, stand by me
Oh, stand by me, stand by me, stand by me

Darling, darling stand by me
Stand by me
Oh stand by me, stand by me, stand by me